Create a Winning Online Dating Profile
By The Editorial Team
Frank
As this cartoon shows people often put up a mask and are reluctant to reveal their true selves, which can be counterproductive to the dating process. At this point in our lives, being more mature, we have the advantage that we are much clearer about who we are and what we need and want in a partner. We have had relationships, and we became aware of what worked and what did not work in these relationships. It is thus important in our dating profile to give one another a clear picture of who we are and what we are looking for. Below are simple suggestions for creating a realistic online profile that truly represents you.
7 tips for creating a great dating profile
- Post current realistic and accurate pictures of yourself
- Take the time to fill out all profile areas
- Make descriptions of what you looking for accurate but not too long
- Be clear about what you are looking for in a partner
- Don’t be afraid to use a bit of humor
- Share your profile with friends to get feedback
- Remember that you can update and make profile changes
How to Take Good Dating Profile Pictures
It is important to present your profile as an accurate picture of who you are and what you are looking for in a partner. Don’t post glamor shots from years before or pictures from when you were 15 pounds lighter. Provide current pictures because this is the person that you want another person to fall in love with, not the fantasy person you think you need to be.
Provided Detailed Profile Information
It is also better to give in your profile as much information about what you’re looking for so that your ideal partner can apply for the job of your partner in life. You only need one, so you don’t want everyone to apply – just the right one. The more you spell out what you want in a life partner, the better chance you have of attracting the right person.
What Should you Include in your Dating Profile Bio?
If you have a sense of humor, please use it in your profile. We have found that if you take a light approach to your description of what you are looking for, it seems to help people respond. This is where a dating buddy might be helpful in giving you feedback about how your profile might be received. They can read it as a prospective person of interest might respond. You can also ask people in your meetups what they thought of your profile and what made them interested in getting to know you. This will help you understand if people are responding to the profile the way you want them to.
Your profile is your greeting card to a new relationship. You want to send the right message and find the right tone for the person you’re sending the message to. The clearer your message is, the more likely the right person is going to respond. Your profile is important, so take the time to make it special to attract that person you are looking for.
What are the Characteristics a Good Dating Profile?
When I read the profile of Gloria’s it stood out, she shared who she was and what she was looking for. I felt that I knew her from her description of herself and her interests. She was not shy and very clear in sharing what she was looking for in a partner. When reading her profile, I felt so sure that I could be what she wanted and that she was what I was looking for. The clarity of her message in her profile was both refreshing and exciting.
I believe that this is probably the way you might want your person of interest to feel about your profile. You can do this! You’ll just need to have the conviction that the right profile can make a difference in attracting the right person. I can tell you it made the difference in my personal experience and in the experience of most of the people I have counseled in my practice. Good hunting!!!
Ready to Take the Next Step in your Love Life?
More information and tips on dating and finding the next love of your life can be found in our book, Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating, which is now available on Amazon. SilverSingles members can receive a 20% discount off of our book by entering the code 20OPENTOLOVE at checkout on Amazon.
Until next time,
Dr. Frank Powers
About the Authors: Two years ago, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers, both nationally recognized relationship therapists, met on SilverSingles and co-authored a new book, Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating, which features their SilverSingles love story as well as tips and tricks on how those ages 60+ can not only survive but thrive in the world of dating. For more information, log onto https://www.goldendatingdoctors.com.