How Seniors Bring Sexy Back in Their Love & Dating Life
By The Editorial Team Nothing like a peak adventure to bring the sexy back into relationships. Like the seniors in this cartoon, you too can fill your time with fun and excitement. With less responsibility for work and family, you can focus on yourself and a partner. Planning adventures on land or sea as a couple can rekindle relationships, whether they are new or long-term.
If you’re single, getting back into the dating game can also be a peak experience. Taking a risk can be sexy and exciting. Signing up for an online service can really get the juices flowing. We say to our brain, “I am dating,” and suddenly you get out of your sweats, scan the room for possibilities, attend class reunions, and let your neighbors, friends, and family know you are available.
If you want to have a sexy peak experience, we recommend that you have fun and plan these experiences—they don’t just happen.
Gloria
It doesn’t hurt to prepare for a peak experience. I think there are some fairly basic things that I do to keep Frank and my relationship exciting as we plan for our peak experiences.
Peak experiences with a partner make us feel alive and connected. Having a partner or potential partner who is there to help you out gives you an extra lift in life. Sexy is giving time and attention to your partner, although it may take a bit more time, planning, and effort than it did in the early years. We seniors still have the ability to find excitement and adventure in love and life and maybe more.
- I take care of my health: I walk daily for an hour. I like to listen to books on tape or podcasts, so I look forward to the walks and don’t get bored. I also do some low-key yoga and stretching regularly. I also take vitamins and some hormone replacement.
- I like regular contact: I find low-key physical touch on an ongoing basis to be sexual and exciting, making later more intimate touch more welcome. Simple things like holding hands when we walk or a kiss on the cheek are a nice low-key turn-on.
- I like cleanliness and order: A tidy house as well as bedroom makes life sexy and fun. I love fun clothes and intimate apparel.
- I love to be told that I am loved and desired: Telling me how nice I look and how important I am in your life goes a long way.
Frank
As a man, I find being with my best friend really sexy. Being with someone who likes me, cares about me, and supports the best about me is really sexy. The moment of the day that I really enjoy about having a partner is at the end of the day, curling up with Gloria and going over the different adventures of the day, sharing my reactions and hers. This is really sexy, and I call it “pillow talk.” Her body next to mine feels warm and soothing, again very sexy.
As I worked with men in my practice who were basically retired, I became increasingly aware that most men needed these things to feel good as a man at this point in life:
- Men need to be cared about
- Be seen as valuable
- Nothing makes a man feel more like a man than being appreciated by a woman
- It is very sexy to still be wanted even if you are older
What Men Need to Know:
- Need to be someone who has something to offer their partner
- Need to know that they are still desired by their partner
- Men are taught that their worth is the money and status they bring to the relationship. It is nice and wonderful to know that we have other values to our partner
Men Have Told Me That Sexy Is Also:
- Holding hands
- Hugs and kisses
- Pillow talk
- Going to sleep feeling connected
- Not being just “roommates” but “playmates”
Peak experiences with a partner make all of us, no matter our age, feel sexy, alive, and connected. Having a partner or potential partner who is there to help you out gives you an extra lift in life. Sexy is giving time and attention to your partner. With planning and effort, we seniors can still find excitement and adventure and maybe more. That is “SEXY.”
More information and tips on dating and finding the next love of your life can be found in our book, Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating, which is now available on Amazon. SilverSingles members can receive a 20% discount off of our book by entering the code 20OPENTOLOVE at checkout on Amazon.
Until next time,
Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers
About the Authors: Two years ago, Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Frank Powers, both nationally recognized relationship therapists, met on SilverSingles and co-authored a new book, Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating, which features their SilverSingles love story as well as tips and tricks on how those ages 60+ can not only survive but thrive in the world of dating. For more information, log onto https://www.goldendatingdoctors.com.